Top tip for a more joyful life

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One of the core reasons many of my clients work with me is because they have realised their life is out of balance. They wish to be more intentional or strategic in how they use their time in order to have the energy and space to pursue their dreams or passions, or simply to feel happier.

We ALL want to live a life filled with joyful moments.   We seek joy in relationships, experiences, moments and even belongings. So what if I told you there is a simple, effective and free way we can have more joy in our daily lives?  Interested?

Of course, you are - we all desire more joy in our lives!

One of the biggest contributors to well-being and ensuring we have the reserves required to live an intentional life, and therefore, the top tip for living a more joyful life is SLEEP.

Or more precisely, get more sleep.

Well-being includes sleep

We know that exercise and nutrition are good for both our physical and mental well-being.  For years we've been hearing about eating healthier and fresh is best, exercising for 30 minutes every day, and now we have 10,000 step goals to help us keep moving throughout the day too.  We have wearable tech and apps to track our movement, what we eat and even how much water we drink!

But do we feel more joyful as a result?

Not so much.  Healthier and fitter but perhaps not joyful.  I know I feel pleased with my daily progress (I am partial to the little green faces in my Fitbit app!), but not really joyful.

Research shows that we are more effective AND more joyful when we have had sufficient sleep.

We can choose to be joyful

I was listening to an interview with Ariana Huffington from the Huffington Post last week talking about her new book.   After collapsing nine years ago due to sheer exhaustion she is now a sleep convert. Two things she said really struck me.  

  1. We can all choose how we turn up in the world each day by simply getting enough sleep.  

  2. And secondly, Ariana believes she has become a better leader because she has learned to take care of herself (by getting enough decent rest).

Isn't that something we all aspire to?  Being more joyful and present in our daily lives, turning up as our best selves for those we care about and being better at the things we want to do.

Sleep is not optional, especially when we are busy

Yet sleep, and more accurately, sleep deprivation is a major problem for all of us.  Especially working mums struggling with the juggle of paid work,  unpaid work, raising children, managing a household, and all the other things that we try to squeeze into a 24 hour period.

We mistakenly believe that sleep is something we can sacrifice when life gets busy.  

As busy people, we (falsely) feel sleep is an expendable that we can do away with in order to get more done.

I know that at times of extreme busyness, high anxiety, or grief it can be very difficult to get enough sleep.  Our bodies will be exhausted and will crave rest but when we lie down our mind will be buzzing, and it can be incredibly hard to quieten the thoughts and drift into slumber.  When we are tired, wired, and stressed it is harder to get to sleep despite our body needing sleep more!  And generally, those times are devoid of much joy too...

Create your own bedtime ritual

An interesting insight from the interview was the fact that we never put our children straight into bed.  We create a ritual for them around the bath, pyjama's on, storytime, and then bed.  One suggestion to help us get more sleep was to create our own bedtime ritual.

It needn't be elaborate or time-consuming - it's about calming your mind and preparing your body for rest.  Clearly turning off your devices would be a good start, but also doing something that allows your mind to slowly switch off is ideal. Perhaps switch to lamplight, grab a good book, put comfy clothes or pyjamas on, and slip between the sheets ready for a fabulous night's rest… Sounds tempting, doesn't it?

Perhaps you could try it yourself this week.  Could you try going to bed a little earlier, even just once this week?  Might you start a bedtime ritual?  

More Support

If you need more specific support than simply getting more sleep can provide, I’d love to help. All coaching starts with an obligation-free, complimentary consult so we can get to know each other. Book yours today.

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Rowena Mabbott

Rowena Mabbott is a Career and Life Confidence Coach, podcast host, writer, and author.

She is also the mother of three boys—two living and one angel. The loss of her son inspired her to follow her heart and leave her corporate HR role to become a coach working with women. She believes that you are already whole and don’t need fixing. After working with Rowena, you’ll embrace your unique strengths and step into your authentic self, creating a life filled with purpose and intention.

Her clients emerge with crystal-clear goals, the confidence to pursue their dreams, and the tools to transform their lives.

Rowena writes a monthly coaching article and contemporary fiction that explores the joy and complexities of romantic, filial, and platonic relationships.